Long distance relationships (LDR) are not for the faint of heart but this doesn’t mean that you should immediately discount them. Like any relationship, they require a constant supply of trust and communication. However, what most distinguishes a long distance relationship from any other type of relationship is the lack of physicality involved. Will an LDR be right for you? Illustrated here are some suggestions to ensure a successful LDR.
1. Communicate efficiently.
Set up a communication schedule and decide how you’re going to get in touch with each other whether through Skype/Google Hangouts, text messaging, emailing or phone calls. Remember that each person communicates differently and that some people require more contact than others. Setting up a schedule allows both of you something to look forward to. The last thing you’d want to do is to play a game of phone tag with your partner.
2. Send each other mail.
Modern forms of communication are nice, but nothing beats the charm of a handwritten note. Old-fashioned snail mail allows you to reveal things on paper that may be harder to say in person and is more romantic too! Sending care packages to your partner is also a great way of showing that you care for them. Simply get a large box and fill it with all of their favorite treats, and pack a couple surprises too.
3. You have to have complete trust in them.
Accept that you won’t see the person everyday. They have their own life and you have yours, even if you two are in a relationship. They won’t be there to physically comfort you when you have a bad day, and you can’t always expect them to be available when you want them to be either. You need to trust them when they say that they are too busy to talk, and trust that they won’t cheat on you.
4. Visit each other when you get the chance.
There is nothing like the nervousness and anticipation you feel when you are about to be reunited with your partner. No matter how far apart you are, the distance can still put a strain on the relationship. It is a good idea to take turns visiting each other during breaks to keep that spark alive and reconnect. Discuss things to do together and plan to make some time for when your significant other visits you. The visit will certainly be a rejuvenating experience for both of you.
5. Stay independent.
One of the benefits of being in an LDR is that it gives you more freedom to do things. Because your partner is physically far apart from you, you have more time to yourself. Keep doing the activities you’re doing even when you were single to ensure that you won’t feel bored or neglected by your partner. It is your responsibility to look after yourself.
6. Be forgiving.
Once in awhile, someone will forget that you had a Skype date set. There will be unanswered phone calls and texts. Like any other relationships, there will be issues and misunderstandings present too in your relationships. Listen before you jump to any conclusions, and be compassionate. It is best not to end conversations on a bad note.
7. Plan fun date ideas.
Virtual dates do not all have to be the same. Instead of your usual Skype conversation, why don’t you try watching a movie together or playing a game at the same time? Pick fun conversation topics that you know you both will enjoy, or even dress up as if you’re on a real date.
8. Discuss the future together.
There is no point in keeping up an LDR if both you are not on the same page. Where will each of you be in the near future? Ultimately, you have to figure out a short term goal to work towards and what you want to achieve together. Whether the goal is to eventually close the distance or increase the commitment, you have to talk about it. If everything is left up in the air or you keep avoiding serious discussions, your relationship is not going to go anywhere.
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